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Beautiful people earn 12% more than Ugly Bettys And What You Can Do About It.

This article talks about how beautiful people earn more than ugly people. It’s an interesting article, and I think it’s true.

Beautiful people are more successful. If two people have equal skills and abilities, the hotter person gets chosen most of the time. It’s a sad fact on the type of world we live in. I’ve seen many instances where a hot girl has been hired because of her looks rather than her skills.

So how do people respond to this? Some people accept it by playing the game. They act confident, dress nice, and try to look presentable. They also constantly improve their skills and abilities required for the job. Others are either in denial, unmotivated, blind to the fact, or they are too proud to play the game.

It’s hard to accept, but sometimes you have to play the game to win. The only time looks don’t matter is if you have a charismatic personality or great technical skills. So unless you’re a superstar in one of those areas, you should strive to improve in 2 of the 3 areas.

Another problem is that most people who don’t have the good looks lack confidence, and their body language shows it. They slouch, look down, always frowning, etc. When they talk, they have weak voices, apologize, and second guess everything. Other people try to cover up their lack of confidence with arrogance. They think they have confidence by deluding themselves. They belittle others, criticize every little thing, speak in an overly pompous tone, use highly technical vocabulary, and so on. In reality, they are just insecure.

The article gives tips on how to improve yourself so you compete with the other beauties. Their tips are lacking in detail so I’m going to list out their tips and give my thoughts on them.

1. Package yourself: clothes will not help you perform but will help how your performance is perceived.

Clothes can help a lot. Well fitting clothes does wonders for the image. If you’re a man with a 38” chest and 5’10” tall, buying a XXL shirt is ridiculous. Don’t wear white t-shirts and khakis all the time. Have some variety in your clothing and get clothes that fit. It can’t be too tight (especially if you’re fat) or too loose (especially if you’re skinny). Get it tailored if you have to.

If you’re clueless on how to dress, grab some magazines or get a friend who knows how to dress. You don’t need to spend a lot of money on the latest designer fashions. There’s a place called Ebay that sells real and knock-off fashions for cheap. Also, you can go to places like Outlet malls and high-end bargain stores like Filine’s Basement. They usually sell high-quality, brand-name clothing at a discount. Actually, you don’t even need to get high-end brands if you can make yourself look stylish with cheaper clothing.

Even if you are the mega dork, engineer type who doesn’t need to see clients, you still have to see your co-workers. For example, your boss might be those non-geek managers. Improving your style will help in how people look at you.

Also, try not to dress to the stereotype. If you’re a Korean girl, don’t dress in all black with LV bags. If you’re black, don’t look like a rapper. Even if you’re a rapper, why would you want to look like every rapper that’s out there?

There’s also another place on your body that you can improve— your hair. You can style it, put junk in it, spend extra money on stylists, etc. Try a different style than you’re used to. If you had long hair all your life, try shortening it and vice versa. Who knows, maybe a different style might improve how you look.

Besides hair, there are other places you can improve, like your whole body. If you’re fat, try exercising and eating healthier. There are lots of examples on the internet that shows people going from fat to fit. At first, exercising and eating healthy is hard. As time passes, you’ll start to feel better.

Clothes and style should get less important as you get more comfortable with yourself. But when the time comes, you still need to know how to present yourself well. Besides, nothing improves your confidence better than looking at yourself in the mirror and seeing how great you look.

2. Emphasize features: be confident about your looks and build a strong image

If you’re ugly, you might have low self esteem. If you have low self esteem, then you probably have negative thoughts about yourself. Those negative thoughts sabotage you. So your self esteem gets worse, and it affirms your negative thoughts. Then it just becomes a vicious cycle.

If you have this problem, it will take a lot of work and a lot of time to fix. You have to fix yourself from the inside out. To start, you can try faking it. Eventually slowly gain genuine confidence and it will start to show on the outside.

One thing you can do is the 30-day positively challenge. Whatever happens, look for the good side of things. Try not to get pissed off about little stuff. When a negative thought enters your head, stop it and try to turn it into a positive. If you’re a negative person, this may sound lame and impossible. Just try it anyway. If you can’t last the entire 30 days, it’s okay, not many people can. Don’t get discouraged. In fact, one day of positive thought will probably be enough if you’re a pessimistic person.

3. Have a trademark: think Bono’s shades or Sir Robin Day’s bow ties. Stand out from the crowd.

You can use trinkets and accessories to stand out. I’m pretty sure everyone has their look or style. It doesn’t even have to be accessories or trinkets, it can be the way you wear your clothes. It can be a specific color or even a hairstyle. Find a unique style about you and show it.

Another way to stand out is to have an aura. I’ve seen it in a lot of people, and I’m sure you have too. Getting that aura might be difficult, but it can be done. Just work on what I wrote about #2. Work on yourself from inside to out, and your aura will come out.

4. Focus on “soft power”: use your values, style and point of view to attract others to you. Stand tall, and never slouch

I’m not sure what they mean by, “soft power.” I think it’s about subconscious communication— your tonality and body language. Improving both will improve your confidence.

For body language, stand tall and relaxed. Also smile a bit more if you’re one of those people that never smile. Give good eye contact. Pick an eye and focus on it. Or if the eye is too hard to look at, look at the place in between their eyes. Don’t look down too much, look straight ahead. Looking down a sign of timidity, you can look confident just by looking straight ahead.

For voice, speak loud enough for people to hear you. Also speak clearer and slower. This brings us to the next tip:

5. Hone your speech: the ability to sell yourself and your ideas is critical

Hone your speech by practicing. Another 30-day challenge you can do is to talk to a new person every day for 30 days. I guarantee your social skills will improve after 30 days.

Don’t say unnecessary words. These can be filler words such as “um, uh, you know, like.” Or they can be modifier and redundant words such as saying, “this coffee is extremely hot.” Just say, “This coffee is hot.”

Don’t assume anything. Ask that girl how much she weighs or how old she is. If you’re curious, just ask or say something that’s on your mind. Don’t assume that she’ll get offended by it. Most likely, she won’t care. Also, when you tell a joke, don’t expect anyone will laugh. Just say it. If no one laughs, who cares? If you want to ask for a favor, don’t go in there thinking they will reject you, just ask and see what happens.

There’s also another pet-peeve of mine— clichéd, professional jargon. Why do people need to say, “We need to touch base with you tomorrow?” Just say, “Let’s meet tomorrow.” Don’t say, “The bottom line is that we can prioritize our tasks and get critical input on our current implementation.” Just say, “We should sort out our tasks and see what they think about our project.” I know a lot of people at my current job that speak very technically to everyone. Are we impressed by it? No. We usually tease them about it. Just talk in plain English as much as possible.

I admit that I’m guilty of making all the mistakes that’s mentioned. In fact, I still make those mistakes. But I constantly worked at it and noticed an improvement in my life. But I have to warn you, these tips are not a magic bullet. If you are serious about improving this area of your live, it will take a lot of time. Try these tips out anyway. After a few years, you’ll be a brand new person.

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